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Cake day: December 28th, 2023

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  • We see conservatives complain about teachers’ sexuality being “shoved down their throat”.

    It was never about being against their sexuality, it’s being against anything outside of the heteronormative ideal of husband, wife and children. Saying partner could be a way of hiding some kind of “degeneracy”, like not being straight or even having multiple partners.

    I use partner because it’s exhausting explaining to people that I have a wife and a girlfriend and we’re a throuple and fine. The amount of people who get upset and pry in your personal business when you drop a hint of being different is ridiculous. Like one day at work one of my coworkers caught me saying girlfriend knowing I have a wife, and started playing 20 questions. What business is it of yours who I’m with or how we live our lives.




  • Some hobbies have minimal levels of skill/knowledge/equipment to properly do them, and I’d argue that self hosting is one of them. You can say people are hostile to beginners, but I might say people are trying to save them from themselves by not just telling them how to slap shit together so they can put it on the Internet and get owned by Internet Background Radiation in a short period of time.

    My personal opinion is that beginners are too over confident in their skills or expect setting things up is like setting up an online account, and expect everything to be ready for them to install in their preferred method, and get upset when people tell them they need to upskill to be able to accomplish their goal.

    An example of this is a conversation I had with someone online about some docker distributed app, and people were trying to get the person to use docker like the install doc says instead of trying to figure out how to just install it directly into the OS, because that’s the way they’re used to doing stuff and they were determined they weren’t going to change now despite the software author’s supported path not including direct install. If the person was willing to learn docker (which is not very difficult if you can follow a tutorial and use compose files), they’d be able to quickly accomplish what they want while also opening more doors for them in the future.