• Starkstruck@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    Dating apps are terrible because they don’t want you to actually find a good partner. If you find a good partner, you have no need for the dating app anymore. So they’ll match you with people that’ll peak your interest, but ultimately won’t work out.

    Obviously there’s more to it than just that, but this is a big part of the problem.

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      5 months ago

      Almost everything is owned by the same company, match.com. So all the apps are built to extract as much cash as possible out of whatever demographic they’re designed for. AFAIK the only one that isn’t owned by them is bumble, because the woman who started bumble helped found tinder and was sexually harassed by one of her male co-founders. Imagine that.

      I don’t remember where this figure came from, so take it with a grain of salt, but I believe that something like 75% of all dating app accounts are dudes.

      My afvice is to find a hobby that can be social and meet someone that likes doing what you do. I hear all the hotties are protesting inequality now…

      • Wogi@lemmy.world
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        5 months ago

        I met my wife on one of the apps. For the life of me at this point I don’t remember which one.

        I had all but given up on the entire idea of online dating and was ready to delete my profiles. I had spent years, and embarrassingly some actual dollars on these apps, sent probably thousands of messages over the years and had a handful of first dates and little else to show for it.

        I was the first person my wife connected with. Not that she hadn’t dated before, just had never used an app to do it.

    • lichtmetzger@discuss.tchncs.de
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      5 months ago

      I had more luck meeting people on a penpal app than getting a single match on any of the major dating apps. The algorithm just always seems to sort me out. It can really mess with your self esteem when you’re never getting a single match or reply to your messages.

      It’s definitely not me, because I get hundreds of letters on Slowly, where it’s actually about communication and I’m even going on a vacation with a girl I met there next week.

      Tinder & Co. are useless, objectifying apps that build on greed and should be burned to the ground.