Transphobia also hurts cisgender people.
I would know. I was hurt by it too. It doesn’t involve bathrooms btw.
oh yea it does, one of my family members was misgendered as a man when she went into the womans bathroom one time, eventhough she isnt, by an demographics that have a wierd reaction to asian people.
I’m not sure this had anything to do with transphobia. The attackers just sound homophobic; they probably saw her hair and don’t know or care that the slur they picked isn’t for girls. It’s sad that she’s going through this. Their girlfriends robbing them after they had been beaten down speaks volumes about what sort of people they are.
It generally really sucks to be a victim of a hate crime.
How sure are we that she was attacked because she was perceived as trans? This could be a simple mugging.
EDIT- nevermind I actually read the article, this was a hate crime
TERFs will try to blame trans people for this.
They’re already blaming black people for it because the perpetrator happened to be black
“This never would’ve happened in my christian fascist dictatorship… The perpetrator should’ve been white!”
“and state sponsored!”
And so it continues…
Awful, just awful.
Y’all, don’t go anywhere without some means of self-defense. A pocket stun gun costs $20, or if you live in a country where they’re banned, carry a pocket corkscrew with a foil cutter on the end.
I have a slock, which is a lock on a piece of pantyhose. It can be untied and left in my bag and nobody will know what it is at an airport.
Stun guns, while potentially being intimidating to a lone attacker, are surprisingly ineffective if actually used for defense.
Pepper spray, specifically the type that uses a stream instead of a fine mist, is far more effective at stopping an attack and giving an opportunity to escape.
I recommend POM pepper spray, personally. The smaller versions are 50 state legal.
Yeah I’ve been hit by a few stun guns, but not the police kind. It hurts sure and it makes a scary noise, but if I were intent on violence they would not stop me.
The police kind might actually kill you.
But also are still only 60% effective and can be defeated with a thick coat, besides you need to have the exact distance between prongs for intramuscular incapacitation, too close, too far, or one prong miss will all likely fail to adequately incapacitate the attacker.
It’s a good option, no doubt.
Two rolls of quarters are entirely legal to carry, and act as makeshift brass knuckles in a pinch. The additional mass will make you break your knuckles, but you’ll be shattering their bones as well.
Shattering your knuckles sounds like a bad idea, especially if your initial defense does not incapacitate your attacker, as it may render you unable to continue to fight back.
As Despoticruin mentioned, a ‘tactical’ style flashlight or pen would be better options, and you can temporarily blind or disorient the attacker(s) with a flashlight as they close the distance.
Should be mentioned any close-in physical defense like that should be a last resort tactic if you cannot escape, and in those situations, a defender would massively benefit from being physically fit and somewhat knowledgeable on how to fight, preferably from classes where you learn to both dish out and take a punch.
Even then, those tools won’t give you much of an edge if you’re outnumbered. Pepper spray is still the best non-lethal option for areas that allow you to carry it.
If you go this route then hammer, don’t punch. I hear that those small steel flashlights with the castellated heads are perfect for exactly that kind of swing.
My Tae Kwon Do instructor told us to strike the hard stuff (knife hand/hammer the head,) and punch the soft stuff (body.)
Edit: when I say “Knife Edge,” and “Hammer,” I’m referring to the edge of your hand, and the bottom of your balled fist, not actual weapons.
You can put a bit more force into a punch from a standing position because you can use your legs, but using a weapon that adds mass to your hands can very easily cause permanent damage if you punch. Using strikes takes advantage of the weapon itself to take the majority of the recoil. The combination of the added mass usually makes the weaponed strike hit harder than an unassisted punch either way.
I’m aware. I had a friend who was being bullied, and he brought a D battery to school, put that in his hand, and broke 3 of his fingers. And also the bully’s nose. So yeah, that’s why you save the punches for the body, and palm/edge/hammer strikes for the head. Or a good elbow or knee.
Definitely not a bad way to go in a pinch.
"This should have never happened just because I am the way I am, and it should have never happened just because I was just trying to use the bathroom. But I don’t want people to be scared to stand up for themselves because they think that someone will hurt them all the time,” she told LGBTQ Nation. “I want to be seen as someone that is strong because they tried to ruin my life, but instead, they ruined their own.”
A GoFundMe crowdfundraiser has since been launched to help with her medical bills and to afford a lawyer to press charges.
The US is utterly fucked. Nothing short of a revolution will save them.
In the US, there is no justice unless you can afford a lawyer.
I was assaulted at an inpatient institution last December. My stay was illegally upgraded to involuntary; I was denied the ability to file a grievance or speak with a patient advocate. I was also placed on the female ward as a passing transgender man and outed to all other patients. They did not provide me with discharge paperwork; as a consequence, I lost my job.
I cannot afford a lawyer; there will be no justice for this.
Why the fuck does she need a lawyer to press charges? Assault is a crime against the state. It’s supposed to be the police and the state prosecutor who deal with this.
Governmental agencies are abandoning their written duties for the current regime, including cops. Doesn’t help that cops are being trained that the public is the enemy. Also, regular investigations and crime solving has been steadily going down. Demographically, conservative-racist people is the biggest group to be in law enforcement, meaning they will be less likely to help someone that’s different. Just recently, the DOJ is refusing to enforce court rulings in favor of the orange king. It’s horrible, and dire, and too many in power seem to not care or trying to ignore it.
The state will fail to accomplish anything meaningful in prosecution - a bad deal or bungled case. Plus there’s the notoriety the case is already generating. She’ll need to file a civil suit as well, and she’ll need someone making sure everything is OK on her end (the attacker doesn’t counter-sue for instance).
I’ve been the victim of hate crime, you think you’re gonna get a justice boner and fight it to the core, but in reality the simplest/safest answer for the victim is to shut up and make it disappear. You’re already traumatized, fighting is confusing and painful.
The reply you got is spot on, and so are you. Often, you don’t get choice as a victim, the state/county/city/whatever is charging a crime whether you like it or not.
We already had a revolution, we let the conservatives live and breed until they won the elections, Idiocracy
The revolution would be led by nazis who think trump is too soft
Hit the gym
No martial arts goes farther
Do both. Both are good
This is more common still for trans people who are earlier on in their transition but the media doesn’t talk about it. This violence was intended for a trans person so why do people only care when it impacts the cis? This ultimately says that violence towards trans people is ok but that it is a problem when those who aren’t trans are impacted.
This violence was intended for a trans person
Did you read the article?
When she confirmed that she was indeed a lesbian woman, one of the individuals hit her
So, no.
And I’ve see n similar reports that did indeed involve trans people so… also no.
This is more common still for trans people
Not sure about this. There’s way much more cis women that trans women, so attacks on “trans women” could have more cis women victims just because of the number if cis vs trans women.
Purely as numbers, this isn’t crazy, but since the size of affected demographics is so different, you have to look at proportions rather than just figures
This ultimately says that violence towards trans people is ok but that it is a problem when those who aren’t trans are impacted.
For the people you want to reach with these kinds of stories, it is. I don’t think there’s much use in preaching to the choir.
But ‘you can always tell’…
This was a homophobic hate crime, trans people weren’t mentioned. The bigots actually guessed correctly in this case.
Huh, it seems you’re right.
A fair point, I’ll put my hands up that I didn’t read the article before commenting, and made some assumptions based on the headline.
This woman will never feel safe using a public restroom again.
Not should anyone, in places like this! Yokes! Yikes, even!
How can there be a cis lesbian?
The adjectives cis and lesbian refer to different attributes. Cis refers to gender identity, so her gender matches her sex assigned at birth (in this case, a woman assigned female at birth). A lesbian refers to her sexual attraction, so a woman who is attracted to other women.
You might be confused on the terms. Cis is the opposite of trans. You can be attracted to members of your same gender without being trans. It’s much more common to be cis and homosexual than to be trans.
I think you are confused on what cis means
The prefix cis- is Latin and means on this side of.
I’m still confused.
This should clear up your confusion: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cisgender
Ah, so cis- is the exact opposite of trans- in Latin.
What confuses you about that?
cis lesbian
I guess I don’t know what cis means. Pretty sure I’m clear on lesbian, but I guess you never know.
Cis = cisgender = she was assigned female at birth and is not transgender
Nice. I appreciate the simple explanation. And fuck this place for downvoting people looking for explanations. Just lemmy flavoured reddit dickheads.
Cisgender means “gender match (birth) genitals”
A trans woman who’s attracted to other women would be a trans lesbian, if that’s what was tripping you up.
Cis is short for cisgender. It’s the antonym of transgender. Has nothing to do with sexuality.
Cis-het would be cisgender, heterosexual.
Trans comes from “on the other side” as cis comes from “on the same side”.
I think a lot of people don’t. The word ‘cis’ seems to have been invented because some people object to the term biologically-female or biologically-male, but that’s generally what it means.
To add, cisgender is not that new of a word, it’s been around since the 90s in English. Using the term “biological male/female” is an immidate red flag as it carries with it the insinuation that trans identities are not ligitimate; you could just say “not trans.” Hence the heavy use by right wingers and bigots.
Thank you for your response.
Cis and trans have existed since Ancient Rome was a thing
So has the french language but it still isn’t going to adequately convey the meaning of biological sex to most Americans.
No, French did not exist at the same time as the Roman Empire.
Thank you for that information. I hope you have a pleasant weekend.
If you know how to create an account and post here, you also know how to look up words.
Okay, I’ll never ask a question about anything I don’t know ever again.
Please suck my genitals on your way to go fuck yourself.
It’s about having a conversation. Who knows, maybe a bunch of people that were confused on terms learned from this.
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You are clearly overestimating the American public education system.
ok but this happens to all kinds of americans dialy for no reason
So what? Does that make it better?
The reason so many people down voted you and this got reported so many times is likely a combination of:
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It happening more than it should, which makes it a fit for this sub.
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Her identity was the reason she was attacked, she wasn’t a random victim.
I don’t think you’re actually trying to be bigoted, but figured if I wasn’t going to remove your comment I should at least try to clear things up.
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Yes, your country is a fucking armpit for a number of reasons (I think at last count 347089088 reasons). But it’d be real cool if bigotry wasn’t one of them.
They are called a faggot and then are beaten bloody for it?
Oh, well I guess rampant violence excuses their bigotry
Huh?
